Is it really your biggest fear?

We’ve all heard the statistic: most people fear public speaking more than death. Jerry Seinfeld used to joke that at a funeral, the average person would rather be the one in the casket than the person giving the eulogy.

While public speaking is the standard "scary" thing, for me, the ultimate terror was stand-up comedy. I know that I have written about my stand-up experiences in the past, but the lessons have been endless, so here I am again sharing my insights in hopes to help you on your speaking journey.

There is a specific kind of vulnerability and pressure that comes with being funny. When you watch a pro, it looks effortless. But we’ve all been in those rooms where a joke dies and where the silence is so heavy you can hear a pin drop. It’s uncomfortable, and it’s risky.

In the past, I have taken stand-up classes, which usually ends in a safe, supportive showcase. But recently, I stepped out "into the wild." I signed up for a five-minute set here in New York City with no class container, no safety net. Just me and the material I’d developed staring into a room filled with people who expect to laugh. No pressure at all.

I had a blast, but it also taught me a few things that apply just as much to a keynote stage as they do to a comedy club.

1. Preparation creates the "Space for Play"

As a trained actor and improviser, I have a habit of relying on my ability to wing it. I’m comfortable making things up on the fly. But standing on that stage last night, I realized I should have practiced more. Not for the sake of perfection, but for the sake of freedom. When you are totally grounded in your material, you aren't stuck in your head trying to remember the next line. You’re free to actually have fun and play with the audience.

2. The Gift of Observation

Comedians are professional observers. They are obsessed with why and how human behavior works.

This is a superpower for any speaker. It forces you to move past generic advice and develop a unique, personal point of view. Curiosity makes your content original.

3. Truth is the Shortcut to Humor

Clients always ask me how they can be funnier in their presentations. My time in stand-up and improv has taught me that humor isn’t about "telling jokes"—it’s about truth. When you speak from a place of honest observation, the comedy reveals itself. Taking a class like this helps you trust your innate humor and gives you the discipline to refine and test it.

4. Surfing the Crowd

Finally, there is the skill of "working the room." It’s an energetic exchange. You aren't just talking at people; you’re surfing with them. You’re engaging, responding, and staying in conversation.

The next time you have a presentation or a keynote, practice the heck out of your structure. Not so you can be a robot, but so you can be present. Be curious, stay in conversation with your listeners, and remember that you are there to provide a service. My job last night was simply to provide entertainment. That was my gift to them.

And, I think I’ve officially caught the bug. I’m going to practice more, get back out there, and have some fun. I suggest you do the same.