I don't have a clean ending for this story yet, but my hope is that this this story will help at least one of my readers pause before making an assumption. To pause and ask the question before skipping to the conclusion. If something doesn't seem to match what you expect, that is just information about your expectation, not about the person in front of you.
I believe clear communication is a super skill and the quickest path between two people who need to understand each other, and most of us default to the slow one out of habit.
"How do I get more speaking opportunities?" This is a question I get asked almost daily and so I felt like it was time for me to share some questions, insights and resources, that might help answer this for you.